Don’t fall in love with a writer

Writers aren’t made for love. Real love, relationships, and giving our full attention to someone won’t be possible. Every soft touch, smile, kiss, hug, date, beautiful person is possible story idea. Every moment with someone we have fallen in love could become part of a story.

Don’t fall in love with a writer if you don’t want to be immortal through their books. Writers change their feelings and life experiences to written words, sentences and paragraphs. Nothing will be secret. Not really. You can ask them to keep secrets or maybe they will want to do that themselves ― even writers want to keep something only for themselves. But trying isn’t good enough. The words will come out. Their pens can’t stop and before you even realize the love between you two is accessible to everyone in the pages of books.

It won’t say your name or their name. There will be a lot of bullshit before, between and after. However, it’s about the small things. You will regocnize words you have said or your lover has said for you. The feelings of your kisses, the characters go for dates that remind the ones you have been on. It’s all about the small things. Writer won’t tell the story of you two but if they truly love you it shines through the text. For them the feeling of love means you.

This doesn’t mean they always write about you.

It’s not better. Believe me.

Those who write tend to fall for everyone. A random person sitting next to them on a train, that gorgeous singer, your best friend, themselves, a neighbor who has dedicated his life to make your life a hell, the spouse of your sister, the librarian, another librarian, every clerk in your local store, everyone. 

We could have a never-ending fight of “Is it love, if you want to write about someone? If you can’t stop thinking about them because the stories just linger around your mind?” and the answer will depend on the person. But one thing is clear. You will never be the only person in writer’s mind. You have to share the space with characters from villains to heroes and from love-interests to almost perfect heroines.

It’s possible to plead your writer to stop just for one date night. However, I doubt it would work out like you want. It’s in our nature to write, to find new ideas and to always see everything from the mindset of a storyteller. You have fallen for a dreamer who will never grow up. It may sound a cliche but it’s the truth.

Despite all the bad points falling head over heels with a writer may be the best experience of your life. Why? That I will share with you next Friday…

“If a writer falls in love with you, you can never die.”
―Mik Everett

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10 Travel love story writing prompts

Traveling around the world is the perfect setting for love story whatever you wanted it to be the saddest thing ever or as sappy as possible. Two people on the other side of the world far from their homes. It won’t get a lot more romantic than that if you ask my opinion. These prompts are things I have seen happening, thought would happen or partly happened to me on my travels. Every single one of these prompts could really happen in the travel world.

My writing prompts blogging series is here to awake your writing inspiration. Check out more prompts and start writing daily. You don’t have to use these prompts to write a whole book or tens of pages. No, just take pen to your hand or start the computer and write. 10 minutes. What comes to your mind of the prompt I gave for you? 20 minutes. How much could you write? 2 hours. Congratulation, you may have accidentally written a real story! (Photo by Verrecchia)

1. I’m staying in hostel and you sleep in the bed above me but we haven’t yet met because our schedules are totally different. I wake up early to see the city while you return back in the middle of the night. Only thing I know about you is that our music taste is alarmingly similar. It’s starting to be annoying so could you maybe stop listening to music so loudly in at 4 am? Oh shit, you’re handsome/beautiful!

2. Lonely boy has decided to jump down from the top of a popular tourist attraction (Eiffel Tower, Colosseum, Ferris Wheel, whatever you know the best). He ends up helping a girl whose hair has clung to the safety net.

3. “This is not a pickup line but have we met before?” When you travel around the world and stay hostels eventually you will meet other travelers again.

4. “I’m a boyish girl and they accidentally put me in the boy’s dorm room. I didn’t mean to spy but I may have accidentally seen your dick. Sorry…”

5. Culture problems can make finding friends or falling in love difficult. In some countries crossing your fingers means you’re lying while in other countries it means you’re hoping for something to happen. We just kissed for goodbye and you promise to see me in Barcelona but you kept your fingers crossed. Now I’m crying because I think you were lying.

6. A girl is scared to death while walking at night time in foreigner country because someone keeps running behind her and screaming. Boy tries to return a wallet for mysterious figure that keeps running away from him in the dark streets of his hometown.

7. “I may have dropped my water bottle at your head in the middle of the night. Could I maybe get it back and take you to coffee as an apology?”

8. We keep meeting at the odd hours of the night in our hostel’s common room. I’m insomniac and you work the night shift in closeby bar. We change greetings, sometimes even talk a little bit about whatever but at some point I have started to wonder if you’re only a creation of my imagination. We only meet at night time when there’s no one else around. So, I’m not stalking you. This is just research.

9. Two people sit next to each other in an airplane. They don’t know each other but they share a problem: They’re both scared to death of flying.

10. “This is kind of awkward but I wanted to inform you that I’m not really married. This ring in my finger is only for safety purposes. So, totally single if you ever need a company to see the Eiffel Tower.”

Writing about traveling and love can be an exciting experience. Just let go and see what happens! Do you have any interesting travel love stories or ideas that could be made to writing prompts?

Wherever you go becomes a part of you somehow.
– Anita Desai

 

And I write about love

I think I have been in love once in my life. You know when your heart beats too fast in their company, every thought just comes back to that one person and nothing can stop you from writing a million love poems for no one to read. I have been in love but the two of us never dated. I was too shy to share my feelings and nothing never came out of it. Later on, I have been asked on dates for a few occasions but nothing has never come out of it.

Can you see my problem?

How can one write about love, romance and the difficulties of dating without any prior experience? Could someone maybe write authors’ guide to love and dating for those who suck at the feelings and the cliches? Just saying that guides like that would be really useful for us who have gotten all their proper dating knowledge from books, movies, and TV series.

It’s hard to write about love. And not only for the big elephant in this room aka me not having any experience. It’s difficult because I always return to the feelings I have had, romances that might have happened and stories that I wish were my own. At first, this may sound okay. If the feelings are my own, the stories will seem more authentic. There are two reasons why I struggle with this.

My stories are repeating again and again. Liking your friend, snarky comments between the two protagonists, hidden feelings, and either super sad or overly sappy ending. The characters I write and who fall in love follow always the same pattern. I write perfect fairytale love interests who are badass, look cool, have a heart bigger than most people and are ready to change their life for the protagonist. It sounds good but after you have drawers full of similar perfect boys it gets boring.

The second problem has more to do with the fact that I don’t have enough experience of a real-world dating. Do you know how hard it’s to write a movie theater date knowing you have never done it yourself? I can do the writing part – mostly because I’m a romantic soul who has read too many romance novels – but at the same time I feel like a fraud. You could compare it to being a lawyer without ever studying law. Or at least in my head, you can.

I’m struggling and still, the worst thing is that this all is just in my head. Yep. The first (or hundredth) rule of trying to be a full-time writer: It’s all in your head. My mind is stuck to the memories I have. If I just got over them, writing anything else would be possible. Being fraud is just one of the clever ways my mind tries to make me stop writing. After starting my studies towards a creative writing university degree I have met a lot of writers. One thing seems to be common with most of us. We all feel like frauds who just try to write.

Someday I’m going to write a real romance but before that happens… Could anyone share with me how it feels to kiss in rain? No? Okay, what about fighting about missing toothbrushes or disappearing chocolate bars? Even as single I don’t exactly grave for romance but having real knowledge of these things would be really helpful while writing!

“It’s still two human beings trying to get along, so it’s going to be complicated. And love is always complicated. But humans must try to love each other, darling. We must get our hearts broken sometimes. This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

Too young and too old to write

Should you write a memoir or autobiography? I’m 22 (and half) years old girl with nothing extraordinary to share with the world and still I had to answer this questions last weekend. Attending to university writing course and being the youngest there has its pros and cons. My views are fresh and ideas hopefully give something new to the fellow writers learning tricks and secrets of writing with me. But average age being 40 or over also means that I’m often left wondering if a person can be too young to be a writer.

Let’s talk about the 80s. I’m quiet because I wasn’t even born. 22 years. How could you write memories or share wise thoughts without enough experience in living? In fact, maybe writing anything is impossible. Maybe I should get a real job, write alone at home and wait ten more years before showing anyone my stories. It’s easy to sink to the despair. 

Maybe I’m too old. How could I start writing in my fifties? I have never traveled the world so there’s no way I can write a love story happening in Paris. Writing is impossible. No matter how old you’re, where you are from or what you have experienced. Writing is impossible and still, somehow so many people seem to be able to do it.

Did you know that many of the famous or not so famous writers have probably been a lot older, younger or middle-aged than you would guess! For making us all feel better (or even worse) here is a small list of writers and their ages:

  • Christopher Paolini, the author of fantasy series Eragon (one of my all-time favorite books having cool dragons), published the first book of Eragon when he was only 18 years old.
  • Stephen King published his first book Carrie at the age of 27 and his breakthrough book The Shining at the age of 30.
  • Haruki Murakami was 38 when he published his famous and also second book Norwegian Wood.
  • E. L. James became famous after publishing her first novel Fifty Shades of Grey that made us all gasp from horror or desire when she was 48 years old.
  • C. S. Lewis had written several books during his life but published the first novel of a world-famous series The Chronicles of Narnia when he was 52 years old.
  • J.R.R. Tolkien was 45 years old when The Hobbit Or There And Back Again book came out but when The Lord of the Rings was published he was already 62 years old.

I could continue the list towards even younger or older writers. Here we aren’t even talking about those people who write their own memoirs or biography. Anyone can start writing. It’s easier when you start at a younger age but isn’t that the case with everything. Writing is also a skill, the longer you practice the better you become. Usually, older writers are ready to give more effort and time to their practice than younger ones so the age doesn’t really matter. If you want to write, just write. Easy, huh?

“And by the way, everything in life is writable about if you have the outgoing guts to do it, and the imagination to improvise. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”
– Sylvia Plath